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Week 3: My Purpose in Life is… Hey look, a Squirrel!

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Finding My Purpose in Life

One of my mentors, Brian Johnson, talking about the book “The Path of Purpose”, by William Damon, says that:

The purpose is the ULTIMATE CONCERN.

It is the final answer to the question Why? Why are you doing this? Why is it important? A purpose is a deeper reason for the immediate goals and motives that drive most daily behavior.

In short, it’s the WHY? behind what we do.

The author argues persuasively that finding a clear purpose is an essential part of achieving the sense of flourishing that we hope our kids experience.

Short-term desires come and go. A young person may desire a good grade on a test, a date to the prom, a cutting edge electronic PlayStation, a starting slot on the basketball team or admission to a prestigious college. These are desires; they reflect immediate aims that may or may not have longer-term significance. A purpose, by contrast, is an end in itself.

A person can change purposes, or add new ones, over the years; but it is in the nature of purposes to endure at least long enough that a serious commitment is made and some progress toward that aim is achieved.

“A purpose can organize an entire life, imparting not only meaning but also inspiration and motivation for ongoing learning and achievement.”

– William Damon

William walks us through nine things we can do to help cultivate purpose in our lives.

Let’s take a quick look at each of them (and, as we do, think about how you might be able to optimize each facet a little more today):

  • “Listen closely for the spark, then fan the flames.” William tells us everyona has a “spark” (or multiple things that capture our interest). We need to listen for them then help fan the flames of potential meaning.
  • “Take advantage of regular opportunities to open a dialogue.” We can take advantage of the day-to-day “micro-occasions” to chat with ourselves about things that interest us and how we may be able to invest more energy in those activities.
  • “Be open-minded of the sparks of interest expressed.” We can only script our own lives. (Obviously.) We need to be open to what fires US up and, cultivate those interests.
  • “Convey our own sense of purpose and the meaning you derive from our work.” Too often all parents do is complain about their work and act as if the only reason they do it is for the paycheck. That’s creating a really toxic relationship to work. We need to share our own purpose and meaning we derive from work.
  • “Impart wisdom about the practicalities in life.” We need to create a vision of what’s possible AND how to create practical, realistic plans to make those visions a reality.
  • “Introduce ourselves to potential mentors.” With the seeds of interest(s) identified, we can  introduce ourselves to mentors who may be able to support us with practical steps and knowledge.
  • “Encourage an entrepreneurial attitude.” This one is awesome and we’ll talk about it in more depth in a moment. Whether we actually start a business or not, the entrepreneurial spirit of having a vision, making plans, being willing to take risks and deal with setbacks is a HUGE asset for all of us as we craft lives of meaning and purpose.
  • “Nurture a positive outlook.” Optimism is essential. We want to cultivate a positive view of life and respond to challenges with a “I can do it!” attitude rather than a “Oh, no!” attitude.
  • “Instill a feeling of agency, linked to responsibility.” Agency is a sense of empowerment—the idea that we have the power to positively affect our environment. We want to combine that with a sense of responsibility—that we can and MUST use our gifts in service to the world around us.
 But wait, there is a BIG Squirrel…
My squirrel is called life, family, work, debts, responsibilities…
More than often, I get derailed from defining my DMP because of my big squirrel…
Thank God I decided to participate in this wonderful program called MKMM.
Thanks to Mark and the wonderful people masterminding together, I know I’m defining my Main Purpose in Life.

 

Changes are good!

How many times have we heard (or say) this expression but in reality, we don’t like to change?

Changes are not bad or good per se. We tagged them as bad or good depending upon our own perspective of the price we have to pay for our new reality. But not knowing the consequences, “the price” we have to pay derivate from our new reality can be very frightening.

images (6)It is this fear that paralyzes us. It what has paralyzed me many times…

I have not one, or two, or even three different licensed professions, but 7. Yes, you have read right: S-E-V-E-N different licensed professions in my life. I have moved from one country to another totally different country twice to start all over again. I am passionate, goal driven. But somehow, I always manage to sabotage my best results.   Somehow, I don’t fulfill my wildest dreams of enjoying a better life, a better relationship with my family, a better relationship my significant ones, a better relationship my personal wealth, or even my health.

As Shirley Hodgins says in her blog, in a way I couldn’t say it any better: “My conscious mind is uncovering some of the deep-seated, hidden, negative thoughts I’ve been using as fuel to run (ruin) my life on autopilot”.

Yep, that’s about it! As I said before, I couldn’t say it any better: Even though I have had a very impressive professional trajectory in my life (sometimes it feels like more than just one life in just one lifetime), I’ve been using my deep-seated, hidden, negative thoughts as fuel to run (ruin) my life on autopilot.

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The good news is: It is time to change!

Yes, CHANGE.

 

Because now, living with the consequences of not changing is worse than the fear of living a new reality, it’s worse than the fear of changing, it is worse than
the fear of rejection, it’s worse than the fear of failure, or worse than the fear of success.

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I am changing.

Every second I’m in the program, I’m changing.

Every letter I read changes me.

Every letter I write changes me.

I’m now conscious of being responsible for my life.

I am indeed the architect of my new reality.

I am, from now the king of my life!

And it feels so good!

And, as I said before: Changes are good!

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